Wow, thanks for MH. Was not expecting it. I'm glad you agree though. There's too many of them. Well the world is overpopulated as it is Why are some women having so many kids. The reason why I said it's not a need is because people make it seem like it's very important, like you can die without it.
Please read my comments before responding. You're stating the obvious by saying "You wouldn't exist if it wasn't for sex. I learned that in sixth grade! Sometimes stating the obvious is necessary, sorry. I'm 19 and that's good because some men will use a girl for sex and leave them.
Okay, thanks! And what if we say that hypothetically you find the guy of your dreams tomorrow. You start dating him and then you start a relationship with him.
In the beginning there's nothing wrong with not having sex since there are millions of other ways to show affection. But what then if he starts to feel like having sex? And what if you got married and he wanted to have children? What would be your response?
I doubt that there are many guys who would settle for the thought of a life without sex! Of course if you find a person who shares the exact same values then it wouldn't be a problem!
You're welcome :- But if my mind changed about it, I wouldn't want to have sex too early because that could ruin the relationship. And if he wants kids, we could adopt. There are thousands of kids waiting for adoption. I respect your point of view! And with adoption you are completely right. It's just interesting to me because I don't think I've ever met a person who doesn't want to have sex!
Is there some kind of special reason to your way of thought or do you just not like the idea of having sex? I mean it was scary for me the first time because I really didn't know what to do and I was so nervous but when you learn it and get familiar with having sex there isn't really anything scary or you know!
I just find that sharing the bed and having sex with the person you love is one of the most beautiful things on Earth! It's when a man and woman become one and want to give all the pleasure in the world to their partner and make them happy! But sex really does require two persons who love each other a least in my case and I wouldn't do it any other way. But yeah as I said I respect your point of view!
That's really something special these days. Thank you!! I just don't have the urge. Ironically that's sexy in a weird kind of way! Best of luck to you : Keep it real and be yourself!
I'm glad you want to know!! So When you avoid a natural call of the body you will simply mess with the whole natural system and the reaction will be unnatural behaviour and thoughts that are the signs of what we call sexual frustration.
I didn't know what hormones were until I was in 12th grade. I never had sexual desires to begin with. My friend asked me if I ever did anal. I was do disgusted. I don't care what you think, just so you know. So take your bitch response somewhere else wolfin-fraulen. Excuse me, but it's not your place to tell me if I'm hopeless or not.
You can't tell somebody how they should feel- only I know that so therefore I'm not hopeless. If I was, I would have said that. And how am I changing the standards of nature? That's also true!! People must think I'm weird for not wanting to have sex, but idc what they think. Why did I bother asking this question? Anyways, congrats to you!!
You know what? You said that really well!! I don't have sexual desires at all- never did to begin with lol. Watch people having to say something about that haha. I find that very ignorant when people compare me to a nun or mention nuns when I talk about not wanting to lose my virginity ever. Some people just don't have sexual desires? I'm sure I can find the right one who thinks the same way.
It'll just be harder like you said! Other people look at me like I'm nuts or something. Thanks for not judging me I wonder if "not liking the idea" is the reason behind "not having sexual desires". I think your answer is pretty good :- At least your not bigoted and ignorant like others haha. It's like taste, if you don't like some fruit then you're not gonna eat it.
Nothing wrong with it. The world doesn't revolve around your virginity :. I met the right person I only made him wait 9 months I know. But sex can change you. We all know thatsexis basically for reproduction. But I have a lot of views in that topic. So so let's just not Sex can change you? Anything can change you. It's a natural part of life.
I'm not judging, but I'm having difficulty seeing the hang up y'all have with sex. I'm a virgin too but I don't get what the whole thing about purity is. What's gonna be so different after you get penetrated in 5 seconds that wasn't there before? Mental is what it is, all mental. Once you lose it, you can't get it back. That's why is should be treated like it's special and not like it's something that you just give out.
So this is solely about virginity then. So what if you can't get it back? If you gave it to someone you truly love then you shouldn't miss it. I don't care about virginity itself, it factors more on who I want to share my first love. PalmWave- you're right!! As long as you gave it to the person you love then that's good. I love a lot of people. But that doesn't mean anything. Sex is beautiful. But it's not my thing.
With the whole gentials and whatever. Everyone has their different views, that's what's great about having opinions. I like thinking of virginity as just "not having had sex yet". Nothing less, nothing more. That's what I was claiming until I realized that sexual arousal is a total bitch and nags you until your body believes it got what it demanded.
I personally don't dislike myself enough to want to be erased from the world after my death, that's part of it. I wonder what's up with the sudden influx of asexual females all around.
I do think it's probably fear of sexuality and pregnancy considering there are a whole bunch of people saying it's extremely painful. Although considering the biological response of sexual arousal is, as said, biological; I guess asexuality could also be a brain dysfunctionality or hormonal imbalance.
Or the result of trauma. Either works. I somewhat hope that there will be more research on it by people who know what they're doing. I don't know. Deep within, the concept of actively choosing to permanently die in all biological forms is, disappointing. It bugs me. I don't know why exactly.
You're absolutely right!! I don't watch pron and I don't masturbate. I don't know why people make is seem like it's a big deal! Just because everybody else does it doesn't mean I need to.
I just don't have sexual desires. Because sexual arousal isn't really a choice, your body just starts craving it. I'm guessing masturbation starts the process and then your body slowly gets addicted to its own sexual release response.
Of course, even with that in mind, wet dreams should still occur, which are honestly annoying to be honest. People are weirded out because they do have sexual desires and there's nothing they can do about it apart from making their body believe that they had a sexual encounter.
It's honestly a hassle. Also, some enjoy it and would be confused as to why you would throw away such an "opportunity of pleasure" or something like that. Arousal is a bitch. You're lucky you don't have that. I was a virgin until 42, and there were several reasons: I was introverted, bookish, and strong-willed. I have always been a good Catholic, so simply decided a career in science and many rich friendships were preferable to marriage etc. I had a happy and fulfilled life and career, and did much volunteer work which was emotionally fulfilling.
Quite unexpectedly, at 42, I met a Catholic widower aged It was love at first sight and we have just celebrated our silver wedding anniversary.
My first time after all those years was odd; it was as if my reality shifted about half an inch in an unexpected direction. It took me a couple of days to adjust to the fact of it.
My status as a person had changed: I no longer lived for myself alone. I had admitted another, whom I completely trusted, into myself, to share my being. That is cosmic and it was worth waiting for. But I also worry about sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy. Most of my friends and family have been very accepting, although some have found it difficult to empathise.
I am paralysed from the waist down, as a result of a congenital spinal condition. I am also taking medication for high blood pressure, which has robbed me of the ability to get and sustain an erection.
Because I am disabled, I have always found it difficult to get into relationships. What does it feel like to be a virgin later in life?
There is still a great stigma around it. I'd been desperate for romantic attention from women for years and wanted a relationship, sex and all. I put all the pressure on myself because of some high school assholes, and I wish I could tell my old self not to sweat it. The time I spent wondering if I was going to be good enough or big enough or whatever enough makes me cringe.
It was years of frustration that built to a few minutes in my car. I started teaching college at the age of 25, and whenever the subject of sex came up during class, I felt like a fraud while talking with my students. I felt really ashamed of being a virgin and for lying about it. That was terrifying, because I imagined everyone ridiculing and abandoning me, so I felt tremendous relief and gratitude by how supportive everyone was.
It'll happen when it happens. Most people put more weight on my virginity than I do. I went in worried that I would finish immediately, like a scene from a bad comedy, but instead I just couldn't finish at all. I've since learned this isn't super uncommon for men who masturbate regularly but don't have P-in-V sex—your body is used to a different stimulus.
So for a while that became its own stigma and the thing I worried about. But the more I was able to let myself be in the moment and to take some pressure off myself, the better the experience of sex got. It was on a weekend away, and my friends put signs up at my house saying 'Welcome Home' when I got back. It was funny. First, because after seeing how crazy it made everyone, I expected more. I'd had a while to prepare, and I had a good guy.
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